How to Successfully Create ‘Team Kids’ With Your Co-parent
How to Create 'Team Kids' By Yourself
People say you should be on "Team Kids."
This can feel frustrating. How can you be a team if you are the only one playing? How do you work with someone who only wants to fight?
It is tiring to be the only one trying. It is heavy to feel like you are holding it all together. If you feel like you are building a team alone, you are not alone.
Here is the truth. You can create "Team Kids" by yourself. You just have to change the meaning.
"Team Kids" is not about getting your ex to help. It is about you being the team captain your kids can count on. You have the power to lower the temperature. You can build a calm world for your kids. It is all about what you can control.
Here is how you can build and lead "Team Kids" on your own.
1. Be a Shield From Fights
Studies show that parent fights hurt kids most after a divorce.
You cannot stop your ex from starting a fight. But you can choose not to fight back. Being a shield means you step away from the chaos. You keep adult problems away from your kids.
You never say bad things about the other parent. You do not make them pick sides. You take the stress so they do not have to. This is a true child-centered approach.
2. Make Your Home a Safe Place
Divorce is hard and confusing for kids.
You cannot control the feeling in their other home. But you can make sure your home is always a safe place. This means you always listen. You do not judge.
You create a space where all their feelings are okay. Your home is a calm and stable place. This gives them the safety they need.
3. Lead with Good Choices for Your Kids
It would be great to make choices together. That is not always possible in a hard divorce. But that does not mean you give up.
You can still lead with quiet confidence. You can do this by making good, child-focused choices. When you have a clear plan, you can offer good solutions. You are focused on what is best for your children.
Even if your ex says no, you have a record of trying to do the right thing. You are teaching your kids a powerful lesson.
You Are Their Team
Think of your child after a tough week. They come to your house. They drop their bag and take a deep breath. They know this is their safe place. There are no fights here.
They know you will not talk badly about their other parent. They can just be a kid.
You feel a sense of calm. You are not worried about a team that does not work. You built the only team that matters: Team Kids. And you are its captain.
You do not have to lead this team alone. Let’s build a roadmap that helps you be the calm captain your children need.
Have the confidence you’re doing what’s best for your family through child-centered co-parenting.
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Have the confidence you’re doing what’s best for your family through child-centered co-parenting.
Book your free consult today to see how I can help you and your family thrive before, during and beyond divorce.